Even for those who are open and adventurous in their sex lives, the act of pegging still carries a strange taboo with it. Pegging is a sex act which has the potential to give men some of the most intense orgasms of their lives, yet many are still afraid or embarrassed to try it—or, commonly, they do not even know what pegging is.
The rest of this article will go into detail about what exactly pegging is and why it feels so good. I will discuss everything from the best kind of dildos to use for pegging, to how to talk to your partner about trying pegging, to how to ensure everything is squeaky clean when you decide to indulge.
What is pegging?
You may wonder exactly what is pegging. Well, pegging is basically just another way to say “anal sex with a strap on.” The term itself was originally coined in Dan Savage’s sex advice column Savage Love, submitted as the winning entry by a reader in a contest to coin a term for anal sex between a straight man and woman.
However, nowadays, the term has grown to be much less restrictive: it does not have to refer to sex only between a man and woman. Pegging is available to anyone and everyone, no matter what gender you identify as or what body parts you possess.
Does pegging feel good?
Yes, pegging feels good! There are many reasons why one might enjoy pegging or being pegged. Sometimes it is simply about the power exchange between the giver and receiver; sometimes the taboo is appealing; and sometimes, people simply enjoy the feeling of being anally penetrated.
For many men in particular, anal penetration has an extra appeal because it stimulates the prostate—the small gland located shortly inside the rectum. The prostate is absolutely full of nerve endings, even being referred to as the G-spot for men. Stimulation of the prostate allows for an entirely different kind of orgasm, which many are curious about.
Am I normal if I like to be pegged?
One hundred percent! Despite the taboo of the act, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you if you enjoy pegging. Also, if you identify as a straight man, rest assured that pegging will in no way make you gay.
There is nothing that can make you gay short of being attracted solely to the same sex. If you enjoy anal penetration but you do not identify as gay, then don’t worry! You are still straight.
How do I talk to my partner about pegging?
If you are curious about pegging, the number-one thing to bring to the table is communication. Although there is nothing wrong with pegging as a sex act, and you are perfectly normal for wanting to give it a try, it is still a step away from traditional vanilla sex. You want to ensure that you and your partner are on the same page about wanting to try new things.
Ideally, you should bring up the topic outside of the bedroom, in a non-sexually charged scenario. Tell your partner that there is something you’ve been wanting to try, and ask if they would be interested to explore it with you. Remember that good communication requires trust between partners—and remember that if your partner is not willing to try pegging, it has nothing to do with you as a person. It simply means that the two of you have different sexual interests.
What kind of dildo and strap on should I use for pegging?
There are many different kinds of dildos and strap ons. The most important thing when it comes to a strap on harness is to find one that the giver finds most comfortable. Harnesses come in all sorts of different styles, and some may even include pockets for a vibrator to fit into, so that both of you will be receiving pleasure at once.
Once you have decided on a harness, the next step is to find a dildo. You should most likely stick to a silicone dildo, because anything too hard, such as glass or metal, can cause injury with a too-hard thrust. Also, start small and work your way up in size. You may have to experiment with both harnesses and dildos to find the best combination for you and your partner.
Can pegging hurt?
When done properly, pegging should never hurt. However, if you move too quickly or use the wrong materials, yes, pegging can hurt. Make sure that you are starting with a small dildo to start with, and remember to use plenty of lube. You should slowly stretch the anus using fingers or a small butt plug to begin with before moving on to the dildo.
How can I prepare for pegging as the giver?
As the giver, make sure that you are prepared to listen to your partner’s needs. Since you will be unable to feel the dildo inside them, the most important thing you can do is be communicative during the act. Go into the experience prepared to move slowly and carefully until you and your partner are both comfortable and ready to proceed.
How can I prepare for being pegged as the receiver?
As the receiver, make sure you are relaxed and comfortable. You may wish to clean up first to remove any anxiety about creating a mess during the act. You may also want to practice using your fingers, a small butt plug, or even the dildo itself in order to get used to the feeling of penetration before you try pegging.
How can I clean up before being pegged?
To make sure that you are clean and prepared to try pegging, there are a number of things you can do. Firstly, a high-fiber diet will ensure that you are on a regular schedule of bowel movements. This can help keep the anus clean and make it less likely that you will encounter a mess during anal penetration.
Next, clean your anus in the shower before penetration. You can use a few soapy fingers to clean a few inches inside as well as the outside of your anus. Some people prefer to use anal douching or a full enema to ensure that you are one hundred percent clean.
These are valid options, but keep in mind that enemas and douching should not be used overly frequently. Full enemas can also loosen material in the upper intestines that would never have been at risk of coming out with just the 5-to-8-inch dildo that you will likely be inserting. So, you need to rinse thoroughly to ensure that everything is out before proceeding with pegging.
Do I have to use a strap on?
No, you do not have to use a strap on for anal penetration. Although pegging specifically is an act associated with a strap on, there are all sorts of different ways that you can enjoy anal play. If you are not ready to try a strap on with your partner, consider something like a butt plug, a detached dildo, or a prostate massager.