Chances are, you have probably heard of a butt plug before—but are you aware of all the ways they can liven up your sex life? Butt plugs are small toys that can provide a whole lot of spice in a small package! You can use them as a warmup to sex, while having sex, or even in a variety of other kinky ways. The rest of this article will go into detail about what a butt plug in, why they feel so good, and how you can use them to spice up your sex life.
What is a butt plug?
A standard butt plug is an anal toy with a teardrop shape and a flared base. They insert into the anus and stay there, essentially “plugging” your butt. Do butt plugs feel good? Yes, butt plugs feel amazing! The anus is absolutely full of nerve endings. It is also a gateway to both the male and female G-spots. For men, butt plugs can stimulate the prostate, also known as the small gland located a few inches inside the rectum. Men can have prostate orgasms through prostate stimulation! For women, butt plugs can stimulate the G-spot through the wall between the anus and the vagina. Women can also wear a butt plug during vaginal sex, stimulating the anus and the vagina simultaneously.
Can anyone use a butt plug?
Yes, butt plugs are for everyone! If you identify as a straight man, there may be a lot of fear and taboo surrounding the idea of anal penetration. However, no amount of anal penetration can “turn you gay,” no matter how much you enjoy it. The only thing that can make you gay is if you decide that that is how you identify.
How do I talk to my partner about using a butt plug?
As with introducing any new sex act, the most important thing is good communication between partners. You should bring up the idea of using a butt plug in a neutral situation, ideally outside of the bedroom and away from a sexual environment. Let your partner know that you are interested in trying a butt plug. Tell them why the idea is appealing to you, and find out whether they would be interested in trying out a new toy. If your partner seems uncertain about the idea, give them some time to consider. Most of all, keep in mind that if they decide they are not interested in trying a butt plug, it is no reflection on you as a person. It simply means you have different tastes.
Can butt plugs hurt?
Used correctly, a butt plug should never hurt. However, if you move too quickly and without proper preparation, yes, using a butt plug can hurt. Make sure that when you first use a butt plug, you are starting with a small size and a comfortable material. There are kits you can find online called “anal training kits” which come with several different sizes of butt plugs. This is so that you can start out with the smallest size and work your way up. You also want to make sure that you are using plenty of lube. If you wish, you can start by slowly stretching the anus using your or your partner’s fingers before you progress to using the actual toy.
Can butt plugs get lost in my butt?
You should always use a butt plug with a flared base that is wider than the neck. This is to prevent the toy from getting sucked up into your anus and disappearing in your rectum! Toys with a T-shaped base are the safest for this reason. However, any toy with a flared base should be safe. Never use a dildo or other toy without a flared base as a plug—you run the risk of losing it inside your butt.
What do I do if I lose a toy in my butt?
If you do manage to lose a toy inside your butt, you should first get into a squatting position and try bearing down. You can also have your partner use their fingers to try to retrieve the toy from your butt. If you are unable to retrieve the toy, you should immediately proceed to the emergency room so that a doctor can assist you in removing the toy. This may seem embarrassing, but if the toy works its way too far up your intestines, it can cause severe damage and may require surgery to remove. This is why it is important to always use a toy with a flared base!
What kind of butt plug should I use?
There are many different kinds of butt plugs available, and which one you use depends on the sensation you are looking for. For your first butt plug, it is advisable to start with a smaller silicone toy. These are softer and more pliable than toys made of other materials such as glass or metal, and thus they are less likely to hurt you. Once you are used to your starter toy, you may proceed to trying other toys—including specialty plugs such as vibrating or inflatable ones.
Can I have sex with a butt plug in?
Yes, you can have vaginal sex with a butt plug in! In fact, this is one of the most popular uses for a butt plug, as it feels incredible. The movement of the penis—or dildo—moving in and out of the vagina can move the butt plug, stimulating the anus and the vagina at the same time. The butt plug can also make the vagina feel much tighter.
Can I go in public with a butt plug in?
Yes, you can go in public with a butt plug in! In fact, this is an easy way for you and your partner to introduce a little kink into your sex life. Put in the butt plug, throw on a pair of panties and a sundress over it, and head out for a nice date. No one around you will know that you have the butt plug in, and it can be you and your partner’s kinky little secret. By the time you get home, both of you will be raring to go!